Pessimism and Optimism, Challenges and Roadblocks

I more or less consider myself a pessimist, except I tend to view it as just logic or realism.

I’ve never subscribed to “The Secret” idea that you can visualise good things and they will come to you. Maybe it’s because I feel like I nearly always know how someone is going to react to a situation, which will more or less inform what the outcome will be, whether it’s favourable or not. Or because I genuinely just believe in fate, and that what’s coming is coming, whether you like it or not. I’m almost never surprised that way, although it doesn’t stop outcomes from being disappointing.

Mere hours after my last post went live, I found out my visa to stay in the UK won’t be going ahead. I wasn’t surprised at all. This government has it in for foreigners and we all know that. I just didn’t think it would be this hard for an Australian to stay, when a successful company is backing them, and actively trying to keep them… Even so, I knew it was a long shot and as disappointed as I am, I wasn’t hopeful. The longer the process took the more sure I was it wouldn’t work.

Is that pessimism? Probably, right?

I don't know where I'm going from here but I promise it won't be boring
Quote by David Bowie

At the end of the day I’m just pleased I finally have an answer, because now I can take action. I hated feeling like my future was out of my hands. But it’s funny because I’m also relieved this decision has been made for me. I absolutely agonised over whether or not to stay in the UK. I decided twice I was leaving, before deciding for the third time I would try to stay. It’s expensive to apply for a visa for the UK, and as NHS fees rise, so do visa costs. Then lets throw in there that the air here is literally trying to kill us, and Brexit is coming for us all, the cons of staying were stacking up. But despite all that, I’m in love with this country.

I’d dared to imagine living here long term. I began to picture the kind of house we’d get in the countryside when we finally got tired of London. I imagined all the road trips we’d take, and the summer breaks to Spain and Portugal and the Amalfi Coast. I thought of how one day I’d like to retire to one of them.

Is that optimism? Probably, right?

Can I be both?

a map of australia
a map of europe

So I’m bitterly disappointed. But I’m ready to take action. I don’t want to go home. I’ve said that so many times over the last year and a half I may as well have it tattooed on my forehead. I love being an expat, even though it’s lonely sometimes. I like living my life on my terms and without obligation. I actually feel free being away from home, and I don’t know how to explain it any other way.

The thing with being a pessimist, with being prepared for the worst is that it never really knocks me down for too long. I’m strangely resilient despite the insomnia and the anxiety; it’s never taken me long to recover from bad news, I just take it really bad right at the outset. And then when I’ve got up again I’m up and ready to go. This isn’t a roadblock – my journey isn’t over, despite what I very dramatically said to my best friend over delicious Spanish wine in a darkly lit wine bar Wednesday night. (I say that because a love for Spanish wine in darkly lit wine bars is something I’ve discovered about myself in London). This is just a challenge and I’m excited to sink my teeth into it. I’ve already started spreadsheets and pro / con lists for where else in the world I could go.

onto bigger and better things

I’ll figure it out. Even if that does mean I have to go home for a little bit. This will not be my roadblock.

I’m sure of it.

 

(I guess this won’t be a London blog for much longer…)

Any advice for visa jumping? Or thoughts on where we two Australian’s should go next? Tell me about it in the comments!

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7 Comments

  1. January 13, 2018 / 9:24 pm

    I’m so sorry your visa got denied, especially when you had such good backing. Being from the UK I know NOTHING at all about UK visas but I keep hearing from bloggers and people on my university course recently about how hard it is to get a UK visa. I’m hoping to escape the UK in the next couple of years and move to Canada, I just don’t see a future here for me – how about, my boyfriend and I leave and you and yours can have our ‘spot’? If only it worked like that!

    • January 13, 2018 / 9:31 pm

      Haha! That would be perfect. If only it would. I would give up my Australia spot for anyone. It’s crazy hard, and without getting political I don’t know how they plan to cover all the jobs when Brexit happens. Madness!

      • January 16, 2018 / 10:23 am

        I don’t know either, and they don’t really seem to be making any plans – or actually doing anything useful. There’s so much uncertainty but I don’t think we’re going to be pleasantly surprised. It’s one of the reasons I want to leave.

  2. January 15, 2018 / 3:39 pm

    Sorry to hear your visa was denied — but don’t give up! There are so many other amazing places you can visit! I lived in NZ for a year and almost didn’t come back so I know what it’s like to find your second home… but keep the PMA up! x

    • January 16, 2018 / 10:51 am

      Thank you! Yes the world is our oyster as they say, though I’d really love an EU passport right now. Will do! X

  3. thenorthleftblog
    January 19, 2018 / 5:31 am

    Totally get this. Everyone says I’m a pessimist, but I don’t feel like I’m a negative person. I have a fairly sunny, positive outlook in general, but I’m also a realist and logical. I like to dream big, but also have a backup plan. So I do think you can be both!

    And I’m the same with taking bad news really badly at first, but then I recover fairly quickly and think of something else to do.

    This could be a really freeing opportunity for you – the world is literally your oyster now, right? Excited to see where you wander off to 🙂

    • January 22, 2018 / 4:37 pm

      That’s it! I don’t think I should be seen as negative because I’m logical haha.
      Yes, trying to see it as an opportunity! Some days are easier than others 😉

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